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Spirits, Resilience and Us
By Medium Hollister Rand
Find Hollister’s LiL classes https://www.learnitlive.com/HollisterRand
and more on her website https://hollisterrand.com/
What is resilience? It is defined as the ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change. And who doesn’t need some of that right now?
I think that the spirits agree. As we deal with individual and collective loss and disruption, they inspire me to share specific and practical ways to build resilience.
How can we start activating resilience? By regularly connecting with people and spirits we love. As you schedule calls with friends and family, also set aside quiet time to spend with the spirits. A few moments a day thinking about a loved one in spirit, or meditating to connect with guides and angels can be enough to shift your perspective - - and your mood.
- Reconnect with someone you’ve lost touch with. Put a smile on their face with a FB message, email, or text.
- Gaze at the photos of loved ones in spirit, hold a piece of their jewelry, send them thoughts of love. (My online courses can help you become more sensitive to loved ones in spirit.)
- Ask guides to help you navigate these unfamiliar times. My latest book, Everything You Wanted to Know About the Afterlife includes a meditation for facilitating communication with your guide(s).
- Take a walk outside in nature or sit in a park or the backyard. You may be surprised at the ways spirits will visit with birds and animals.
What stands in the way of building resilience? The belief that if we can’t control everything, we can’t control anything! Take it from a medium - - I can’t control the spirits. What I can do, however, is be the best medium I can be. Recognizing what I am responsible for and what I’m not, allows me to adjust easily to the way spirits present themselves to me. What we tell ourselves about life and death is important when it comes to resilience.
- Notice your thought patterns and acknowledge what is in your control and what isn’t.
- Practice letting go of a way of thinking, a problem, a habit. How do you feel?
- If you’re working through a thorny problem, break it down into sections. If the problem relates to someone in spirit, ask for their help, and then step away from the situation. It is in our stepping aside that the spirits can step in to help!
What is a foundational practice for building resilience? Remind yourself about the challenges you’ve handled successfully in the past. For example: Do you remember your first day on a job? Feeling that success can help you confidently meet the challenge of changing jobs or career paths now. Don’t forget to include the spirits in taking stock of success!
- Did your ancestors move to a new country (like the US) and start again? Explore your family tree for inspiration.
- Do you know of ancestors who lived through The Great Depression? Perhaps a living relative has stories to share with you about perseverance and survival. Write down these family stories and review them when you feel discouraged.
- Do you have ancestors who lost their lives in war, a pandemic, or famine? Those spirits are willing and able to help you now. Ask them.
- Light a candle for a loved one in spirit and express gratitude for their wisdom. Their wisdom is yours. And finally, what is the single most powerful element of resilience? Contributing to the welfare and happiness of others. Every time we show kindness and offer help, we are brought beyond our own limitations and pain.
- What small thing can you do today that will put a smile on someone’s face?
- Is there a cause that a loved one in spirit supported? Perhaps you can make a small contribution!
Whenever we express love to someone we know (or anonymously to a stranger), spirits magnify our efforts. In this way, even the smallest attempt can yield a magnificent result. When even getting out of bed seems hard, set the intention to be helpful to someone that day. You may be Surprised by how energetic you feel! It is easy to get overwhelmed these days; things are changing fast. Building resilience may be what helps get us through it. By staying connected, relinquishing control, remembering successes, and helping others, we can make a difference for ourselves and each other with the spirits’ help.